Miscarriage, pregnancy loss, and infant loss are heartbreakingly common, yet so many women still feel they have to grieve in silence.

In this episode of Geriatric Mamas, Sonia and Jess continue their October Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month series, The Babies We Carry With Us, by exploring the deeply personal pregnancy loss stories shared by Chrissy Teigen, Meghan Markle, Christina Perri, Carrie Underwood, Beyoncé, and Courteney Cox.

From the different ways these women have honored their babies to the importance of speaking openly about miscarriage and stillbirth, Sonia and Jess reflect on why remembrance matters—and why even the most well-intentioned words can sometimes hurt.

Jess also shares the heartbreaking experience of learning she'd miscarried while at work, the isolation of grieving privately, and the painfully awkward moments that followed. Together, they discuss what to say after someone experiences a miscarriage, what not to say, and how friends and family can offer meaningful support without minimizing someone's grief.

The conversation also explores the International Wave of Light on October 15, ways to remember babies who are no longer here, and resources from their October nonprofit partner, Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support.

It's an honest, occasionally funny, and deeply compassionate conversation about motherhood, grief, and the babies who will always be part of our stories.

This week, Sonia and Jess begin The Babies We Carry With Us, Geriatric Mamas’ campaign for October Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, in collaboration with Share Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support. They’re joined by Jenn Stachula, Executive Director of Share, an organization that has spent nearly 50 years supporting families through miscarriage, stillbirth, pregnancy loss, and infant loss. Jenn’s connection to this work is also deeply personal: at 40, she became pregnant with her daughter Caroline, whose heart stopped beating at 15 weeks. Together, Sonia, Jess, and Jenn talk about the babies who remain part of families, identities, and stories—even when the rest of the world seems to have moved on. Jenn explains what grieving parents actually need, why silence can feel more painful than imperfect words, and how to support someone without reaching for the nearest inspirational platitude. Content note: This episode discusses miscarriage, stillbirth, infertility, pregnancy loss, and infant loss. Please listen gently and take care of yourself.

This week, Jess accidentally creates a full-time job for herself in the form of a tiny household fairy who monitors behaviors, leaves gifts, sprinkles suspicious amounts of glitter around the house and is apparently about to need a benefits package. Meanwhile, Sonia’s daughter has decided she’s got jokes on her weekly bible verse, which naturally reminds Jess of the time she prayed to Baby Jesus to make her a 'witch'. So spiritually, everyone is doing great. Then they get into the actual questions keeping mothers awake at night: Who is responsible for making sure siblings growing up in different households actually have relationships with one another? Why are people still asking parents of all girls if they’re going to “try for a boy”? Is it okay to privately hope for a particular gender—and should gender disappointment ever, ever be filmed for the internet where your future child can eventually watch your face fall when the confetti comes out? They also talk about wanting a baby versus wanting to be a mother, the completely normal realization that we're probably responsible for our children’s future internal dialogue, and the deeply humbling experience of teaching your child emotional regulation only to have them turn around and tell you to take a deep breath. Plus, their book, So You’re Trying to Have a Baby After 35, is officially out in digital and paperback, and why they created the fertility guide they desperately wish someone had handed them when they were sitting in those first appointments thinking, Wait…what am I even supposed to ask? And finally, they introduce the 'Geriatric' Mamas October campaign, The Babies We Carry With Us, honoring Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month. Throughout October, the mamas will be remembering babies who are deeply loved, sharing stories from families who carry them, and talking with organizations doing the work of supporting parents through pregnancy and infant loss.